My Fatness

Yes, I am overweight OR undertall. No matter how I look at it, I have to look in the mirror and deal with reality. I can no longer eat what I want and stay a reasonable weight. My metabolism has changed, like everyone elses does as we age. (Yes my children, IF you live long enough, you most likely will experience the same thing.) I have seen exceptions to this, or so I thought. Upon closer inquiry or observation I concluded, 'maybe not'.

It truly is mind over matter. Questioning myself, I have concluded that I really do not care, at least enough to do anything about it. I have been checking to make sure that I do not gain any MORE, but I can not seem to make myself care to lose the extra weight. It is an ongoing struggle. I am in constant contact with a 43 year old woman that is UNDER weight. The Dr. tells her she should gain 10 #s, but she refuses. She is highly critical of overweight people. "Why don't they just lose the weight!" Finally one day I said, "They/we don't lose the weight for the same reason that you don't gain the weight, it's a psychological problem, we don't want to for some reason." It is just socially acceptable to have the skinny problem VS the FAT problem.

Now obviously I am not going to be critical of over weight/obese people. Here is my question: WHY OH WHY do people clothe them self in such a manner as to show the world their FATNESS? I have literally fought the gag reflex at the sight of some of it! Women showing their mid section and falling out of their tops and displaying their butt cracks. Do you look in the mirror before you leave home?????? If you do, what are you seeing???

Regardless of weight or age, why do women dress intentionally so they think that they are sexually attractive and then become offended when men make sexual remarks or actions toward them. "Isn't that what you were looking for when you dressed like that?"

Parents, are you teaching your children some standards for appropriate attire? I have 5 granddaughters. One of them has parents that simply do not get it. They let her dress anyway she wants, and provide the sexy clothes for her. It breaks my heart. When I said something to my son about it, he scoffed at me and said, "Don't be stuppid, its cute, she's just a little girl." My answer, "At what point do you say, OK, you can't dress like that anymore?" "Plus, the child molesters love lookin at her." His reply: "Mom, you worry about nothing." We'll continue this subject for another day.

Back to my FATNESS. I realize that it is not nice to look at, so I attempt to dress neat, clean, pressed and covered loosely.

My question to the world is: Why do you flaunt your FATNESS? It is ugly. I really do want to understand, or at least hear some sort of explination.

Until Then,

Kate