Yes, I am overweight OR undertall. No matter how I look at it, I have to look in the mirror and deal with reality. I can no longer eat what I want and stay a reasonable weight. My metabolism has changed, like everyone elses does as we age. (Yes my children, IF you live long enough, you most likely will experience the same thing.) I have seen exceptions to this, or so I thought. Upon closer inquiry or observation I concluded, 'maybe not'.
It truly is mind over matter. Questioning myself, I have concluded that I really do not care, at least enough to do anything about it. I have been checking to make sure that I do not gain any MORE, but I can not seem to make myself care to lose the extra weight. It is an ongoing struggle. I am in constant contact with a 43 year old woman that is UNDER weight. The Dr. tells her she should gain 10 #s, but she refuses. She is highly critical of overweight people. "Why don't they just lose the weight!" Finally one day I said, "They/we don't lose the weight for the same reason that you don't gain the weight, it's a psychological problem, we don't want to for some reason." It is just socially acceptable to have the skinny problem VS the FAT problem.
Now obviously I am not going to be critical of over weight/obese people. Here is my question: WHY OH WHY do people clothe them self in such a manner as to show the world their FATNESS? I have literally fought the gag reflex at the sight of some of it! Women showing their mid section and falling out of their tops and displaying their butt cracks. Do you look in the mirror before you leave home?????? If you do, what are you seeing???
Regardless of weight or age, why do women dress intentionally so they think that they are sexually attractive and then become offended when men make sexual remarks or actions toward them. "Isn't that what you were looking for when you dressed like that?"
Parents, are you teaching your children some standards for appropriate attire? I have 5 granddaughters. One of them has parents that simply do not get it. They let her dress anyway she wants, and provide the sexy clothes for her. It breaks my heart. When I said something to my son about it, he scoffed at me and said, "Don't be stuppid, its cute, she's just a little girl." My answer, "At what point do you say, OK, you can't dress like that anymore?" "Plus, the child molesters love lookin at her." His reply: "Mom, you worry about nothing." We'll continue this subject for another day.
Back to my FATNESS. I realize that it is not nice to look at, so I attempt to dress neat, clean, pressed and covered loosely.
My question to the world is: Why do you flaunt your FATNESS? It is ugly. I really do want to understand, or at least hear some sort of explination.
Until Then,
Kate
Sunday, May 25, 2008
Saturday, May 17, 2008
Speech Patterns
We are all aware of the fact that in this United States as we go East to West and North to South, there are different speech patterns. And of course we can go North of the border, "Aye".
I am asked from time to time where I am from. When I say, "Minnesota", the quick response is, "Of course, I can hear the accent!"
When we moved to Florida, one of the things I thought I was going to be relieved of hearing the phrase, "You guys." I strongly dislike that phrase. Just as much as I dislike, "You people." I was unable to run away from, 'you guys' or 'you people.'
Any phrase or word can be over used. Anyone who has spent a lot of time with me or worked with me would probably be able to think about it and recall seeing me wear a rubber-band around my wrist from time to time. It is a simple but effective way to correct bothersome speech patterns. Each time I use the word or phrase that is problematic, I just pull that rubber-band and let it snap my wrist. First of all, I am amazed at how often I say the word or phrase. It takes several days, but I can usually brake the poor or irritating speech pattern.
I have an acquaintance that prides herself in learning new words to make herself sound 'more educated'. Then she way OVER USES them, so it is pretty obvious that she is trying to impress. It is great to consciously continue to learn, but do not over use it. (It is counter productive)
Those of us in sales, and for life in general need to be forever cognisant of our speech patterns.
We all need to listen much more than we speak. We need to ask questions rather than inform others about ourself.
I was speaking with a business associate the other day and it SEEMED like every other word was 'you know'. It was all I could hear! So I looked at the second hand on my watch and made a mark on a piece of paper each time he said, "you know" IN 60 SECONDS, he said, "you know" 14 times! That is every 4.28 seconds!
GIVE THAT MAN A RUBBER-BAND
Am I willing to ask someone close to me to help me by telling me what corrections I need in my speech patterns?
I had better be, I have a feeling that those close to me will read this and be letting me know.
Until Then
Kate
I am asked from time to time where I am from. When I say, "Minnesota", the quick response is, "Of course, I can hear the accent!"
When we moved to Florida, one of the things I thought I was going to be relieved of hearing the phrase, "You guys." I strongly dislike that phrase. Just as much as I dislike, "You people." I was unable to run away from, 'you guys' or 'you people.'
Any phrase or word can be over used. Anyone who has spent a lot of time with me or worked with me would probably be able to think about it and recall seeing me wear a rubber-band around my wrist from time to time. It is a simple but effective way to correct bothersome speech patterns. Each time I use the word or phrase that is problematic, I just pull that rubber-band and let it snap my wrist. First of all, I am amazed at how often I say the word or phrase. It takes several days, but I can usually brake the poor or irritating speech pattern.
I have an acquaintance that prides herself in learning new words to make herself sound 'more educated'. Then she way OVER USES them, so it is pretty obvious that she is trying to impress. It is great to consciously continue to learn, but do not over use it. (It is counter productive)
Those of us in sales, and for life in general need to be forever cognisant of our speech patterns.
We all need to listen much more than we speak. We need to ask questions rather than inform others about ourself.
I was speaking with a business associate the other day and it SEEMED like every other word was 'you know'. It was all I could hear! So I looked at the second hand on my watch and made a mark on a piece of paper each time he said, "you know" IN 60 SECONDS, he said, "you know" 14 times! That is every 4.28 seconds!
GIVE THAT MAN A RUBBER-BAND
Am I willing to ask someone close to me to help me by telling me what corrections I need in my speech patterns?
I had better be, I have a feeling that those close to me will read this and be letting me know.
Until Then
Kate
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Age Sensitive (revised)
I am not one of those who feel the need to hide my age. Plus, I do not understand what is going through the mind of a person that feels the need to hide their age.
Now, I am embarrassed to admit that I also dyed my hair and changed my style for a few years. I gave into wanting to please my husband. I look back on it now and I really looked stupid. It is true that my hair started to turn gray early. (late 40s) I still wish I had not given in to the pressure.
Why this came to mind again, was because I saw yet another woman 'trying' to look half her age and I thought, "Who does she think she is kidding?" And then...! when one of these woman 'attract' a younger man and they believe they are pulling it off, that is really pretty sad. Don't kid yourself honey, maybe he needs a mommy, or you need to be a mommy. Or does he think you have something he wants? Money, position, a place to live? If both people are aware of 'what the attraction is' then go for it. However, when someone starts out trying to appear to be something they are not; that is not likely.
I am 56 years old and can find no reason to be ashamed of that. After all, the alternative to having birthdays would be.......death?
Maybe someone can explain to me the problem with being 56 or 60 or 65 or.... Someone help me understand !
I am glad that I am not out looking for a job at my age. Why? For some reason companies do not want to hire someone over 50. And as employees hit the 50s, it seems like life is made difficult to 'encourage' those people to resign. Maybe someone can explain that to me too. Let me see... 50 years old, hmmm. Experience..maturity..usually good work ethic..10 to 15 good working years left. Sounds like a good employee to me.
As I was growing up, I NEVER was embarrassed to be with my parents. I do not understand that either. What is that about?
So, if someone would please explain to me what the problem is with having more birthdays is, or why kids do not want to be with their parents, I would really appreciate it.
Until Then,
Kate
Now, I am embarrassed to admit that I also dyed my hair and changed my style for a few years. I gave into wanting to please my husband. I look back on it now and I really looked stupid. It is true that my hair started to turn gray early. (late 40s) I still wish I had not given in to the pressure.
Why this came to mind again, was because I saw yet another woman 'trying' to look half her age and I thought, "Who does she think she is kidding?" And then...! when one of these woman 'attract' a younger man and they believe they are pulling it off, that is really pretty sad. Don't kid yourself honey, maybe he needs a mommy, or you need to be a mommy. Or does he think you have something he wants? Money, position, a place to live? If both people are aware of 'what the attraction is' then go for it. However, when someone starts out trying to appear to be something they are not; that is not likely.
I am 56 years old and can find no reason to be ashamed of that. After all, the alternative to having birthdays would be.......death?
Maybe someone can explain to me the problem with being 56 or 60 or 65 or.... Someone help me understand !
I am glad that I am not out looking for a job at my age. Why? For some reason companies do not want to hire someone over 50. And as employees hit the 50s, it seems like life is made difficult to 'encourage' those people to resign. Maybe someone can explain that to me too. Let me see... 50 years old, hmmm. Experience..maturity..usually good work ethic..10 to 15 good working years left. Sounds like a good employee to me.
As I was growing up, I NEVER was embarrassed to be with my parents. I do not understand that either. What is that about?
So, if someone would please explain to me what the problem is with having more birthdays is, or why kids do not want to be with their parents, I would really appreciate it.
Until Then,
Kate
Thursday, May 1, 2008
Define Disabled
I live and work among SO many people that are on SSI (Social Security Disability) that I simply can not comprehend the nation wide numbers and dollars dished out every month!
DO NOT MISUNDERSTAND ME, there are people that NEED this assistance. But there are many who are getting it, and do not.
Shortly after I graduated from high school and had a certificate from business school I went to work full time. My supervisor was a middle aged woman in a wheel chair that had the use of a TOTAL of 6 fingers. She could type faster than anyone in the department! She made an excellent salary and was completely self sufficient.
(would that happen now or would she be herded to the disability line?)
IF a person is working in construction, and they are injured and hurt their shoulder, it seems that they automatically go for the permanent disability! Why? How about a different line of work? Does that shoulder injury stop that person from driving a delivery vehicle? A 'gal or guy friday' in an office? Learning a new trade all together? There are real and legitimate ways to work at home.
I personally watch people every day that could certainly work for a living, but instead, draw permanent disability.
Example: He hurt his back at work so he is unable 'work'. He is a large man, partly due to the fact that he works out with weights every day. Isn't there something this man could do to be gainfully employed?
Several years ago when I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and could barely walk and in constant pain, it was suggested to me that I go on 'disability'. We lost the business that we owned because I could no longer do that type of work. I am so greatful that I resisted that temptation and did not fall into that lifestyle. I now do something totally different, but I still make a living.
Wouldn't EVERYONE be better off, if people were financially helped temporarily, re-educated, and back into the work force when ever possible?
Seems logical to me!!
Until Then,
Kate
DO NOT MISUNDERSTAND ME, there are people that NEED this assistance. But there are many who are getting it, and do not.
Shortly after I graduated from high school and had a certificate from business school I went to work full time. My supervisor was a middle aged woman in a wheel chair that had the use of a TOTAL of 6 fingers. She could type faster than anyone in the department! She made an excellent salary and was completely self sufficient.
(would that happen now or would she be herded to the disability line?)
IF a person is working in construction, and they are injured and hurt their shoulder, it seems that they automatically go for the permanent disability! Why? How about a different line of work? Does that shoulder injury stop that person from driving a delivery vehicle? A 'gal or guy friday' in an office? Learning a new trade all together? There are real and legitimate ways to work at home.
I personally watch people every day that could certainly work for a living, but instead, draw permanent disability.
Example: He hurt his back at work so he is unable 'work'. He is a large man, partly due to the fact that he works out with weights every day. Isn't there something this man could do to be gainfully employed?
Several years ago when I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and could barely walk and in constant pain, it was suggested to me that I go on 'disability'. We lost the business that we owned because I could no longer do that type of work. I am so greatful that I resisted that temptation and did not fall into that lifestyle. I now do something totally different, but I still make a living.
Wouldn't EVERYONE be better off, if people were financially helped temporarily, re-educated, and back into the work force when ever possible?
Seems logical to me!!
Until Then,
Kate
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